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I thought this might be a good topic to share with any future brides so they can realize that knowing what you want is sometimes less drama then being flexible. Read David’s post about Wedding Day Drama, he is right on with his comments and the drama is sometimes unavoidable regardless. I’m a pretty laid back person and I’m not a slave to fashion, or a wealthy debutant so I’m pretty flexible with a lot of the options I had for my wedding (especially the costly items). I really wish I had been more bridezilla-ish. I’m a little less then two months away from the big day so I guess now will have to be a good time to start!!!
Don’t feel bad about being a little bit of a bridezilla!!! I think being direct is going to be your best bet in planning a wedding and making decisions when they need to be made. Mind you this does not mean disregarding all social norms and/or disrespecting anyone.
Real life Example 1 – Different sizes and shapes of bridesmaids.
Source: bestweddingdresses.net
Laidback Bride – Let them pick different style dress (same designer same color)
Result – Endless phone calls during the day while the girls went to different dress shops looking for the ones with the most options of that designer. Also one called me and told me that this “dress was made for her” umm.. yes but it was made by another designer
B-Zilla Solution – Pick a dress and make them look alike – who cares right? Attention is on the bride=) (I’m just kidding but really it’s easier)
Real life Example 2 – Not being direct with Maid of Honor (MOH) on what I’m expecting from her (bridal shower, bachelorette etc)
Source: Susan Zoha
Result – (late in the game) I asked for just family – group of women at my mom’s house. There ended up being a fight over location (I live in VA – my family and close friends live in CT) where now there is tension in the bridal party (that I was left off of all the e-mails so I still don’t know the details) In the end everything was great, but I could have avoided the opinions of others by just stating my own.
B-Zilla Solution – Be direct very early on, if your priorities are different then your mothers or your MOHs then you need to be honest and let them know how you foresee the events happening.
Real life Example 3 – Bachelor Party
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Laidback Bride – I wasn’t really concerned with this as I was asked to be part of the surprise kidnapping. I also helped with some accommodations since I was able to work out some deals.
Result – If you have a problem with any foreseeable things occurring let it be known early. Well I’m sure most of you would guess=)
B-Zilla Solution – Demand the groom inform the best man of the restrictions on the bachelor party. B-Zilla might want to follow up with the BM just in case she is worried.
Do you have any bridezilla stories you would want to share? Any times you wish you were bridezilla?
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