Comments on: Considering a Wedding Coordinator? http://www.bigfatcake.com/blog/2009/10/considering-a-wedding-coordinator/ Make wedding planning a piece of cake! Tue, 07 Sep 2010 04:36:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Liz http://www.bigfatcake.com/blog/2009/10/considering-a-wedding-coordinator/comment-page-1/#comment-469 Liz Tue, 20 Oct 2009 17:46:34 +0000 http://www.bigfatcake.com/blog/?p=1571#comment-469 ...And I was emergency #3!! Having been a bride, a family member, DOC, and a wedding planner for over a dozen weddings...I agree with Christine! Even if you are not pondering the question, you will need one. I was a DOC of the most organized (super anal...in a good way :D) wedding last year. The reception vendor (which was a federally secured building) had scheduled the 2pm reception reservation for 7pm instead of 7am!! So when I showed up that morning to start delegating decoration responsibilities we were LOCKED OUT!!! It was a disaster...if there were no point of contact the wedding reception wouldn't have happened. (sigh) I would go as far as suggesting two DOC, one for the ceremony and reception....or at least an assistant. Because as super as we (Christine and I) are (I'm so KIDDING) one cannot be at two places at once. Re: Joleen's comment about not using a family member, it all depends on you and your trust/"comfortability" threshold and your relationship with your DOC. Some folks would rather trust a close friend/family member rather than a more removed 3rd party. Just NOTE: it can get tense and the DOC is there to get things done...be stern if necessary. I WOULD NOT recommend MOB/MOG (mother of the bride/groom), bridal party member (hate to state the obvious but...), or immediate family member. These folks already have duties or need to be available to the bride or groom and other family members and out of town guests. MOB/MOG: I heed a warning to all brides and grooms...I know you may have grown up with super mom but honestly, I've been apart too many weddings where they get so stressed out because they "wanted to be apart of the wedding experience." Then in retrospect, they regret not being "present" during the actual wedding because they were too bogged down with the behind the scenes... Ok...those are my thoughts....whoa sorry for the super long entry! …And I was emergency #3!! Having been a bride, a family member, DOC, and a wedding planner for over a dozen weddings…I agree with Christine! Even if you are not pondering the question, you will need one. I was a DOC of the most organized (super anal…in a good way :D ) wedding last year. The reception vendor (which was a federally secured building) had scheduled the 2pm reception reservation for 7pm instead of 7am!! So when I showed up that morning to start delegating decoration responsibilities we were LOCKED OUT!!! It was a disaster…if there were no point of contact the wedding reception wouldn’t have happened. (sigh)

I would go as far as suggesting two DOC, one for the ceremony and reception….or at least an assistant. Because as super as we (Christine and I) are (I’m so KIDDING) one cannot be at two places at once.

Re: Joleen’s comment about not using a family member, it all depends on you and your trust/”comfortability” threshold and your relationship with your DOC. Some folks would rather trust a close friend/family member rather than a more removed 3rd party. Just NOTE: it can get tense and the DOC is there to get things done…be stern if necessary. I WOULD NOT recommend MOB/MOG (mother of the bride/groom), bridal party member (hate to state the obvious but…), or immediate family member. These folks already have duties or need to be available to the bride or groom and other family members and out of town guests.

MOB/MOG: I heed a warning to all brides and grooms…I know you may have grown up with super mom but honestly, I’ve been apart too many weddings where they get so stressed out because they “wanted to be apart of the wedding experience.” Then in retrospect, they regret not being “present” during the actual wedding because they were too bogged down with the behind the scenes…

Ok…those are my thoughts….whoa sorry for the super long entry!

]]> By: joleen http://www.bigfatcake.com/blog/2009/10/considering-a-wedding-coordinator/comment-page-1/#comment-468 joleen Tue, 20 Oct 2009 16:10:16 +0000 http://www.bigfatcake.com/blog/?p=1571#comment-468 I think if you are considering a coordinator you probably already know that you need one! It takes a lot of stress out of an already stressful day. It's also nice not to have to rely on family members for a lot of the coordinating tasks that would default to them and let them enjoy day!!! Christine was my fabulous coordinator and also brought to my attention a lot of things that were never on my radar. I think having a DOC still allows you to do all your own planning and have an advisor if you want one. I was informed today that emergency number 1 was at my wedding=) I'm sure glad Christine was there!!!! I think if you are considering a coordinator you probably already know that you need one! It takes a lot of stress out of an already stressful day. It’s also nice not to have to rely on family members for a lot of the coordinating tasks that would default to them and let them enjoy day!!! Christine was my fabulous coordinator and also brought to my attention a lot of things that were never on my radar. I think having a DOC still allows you to do all your own planning and have an advisor if you want one.

I was informed today that emergency number 1 was at my wedding=) I’m sure glad Christine was there!!!!

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