I’m kind of like a raccoon, in that I’m attracted to almost all shiny things, but not all shiny things are best suited for everyday use, and this was not something that I realized as I ooed and aahed over every piece of jewelry in the Tiffany catalogue. Yes, there are those big Cs that everyone talks about when it comes to buying a diamond, but there are also a ton of practical, smart, I-wish-I-had-thought-about-that things that you need to consider when buying an engagement ring as well. These were the things that my fiancé, Kris, and I zeroed in on when we went to visit our trusty jeweler Jayne at J. Phoenix Designs in the Woodley Park Marriott in DC.
We learned that whether or not you are left handed, what you do for a living, what hand you will be wearing your ring on (some cultures it is the right), what kind of band you want, how sensitive your fingers are, and how good you are at jewelry maintenance are all things you need to think about before you buy a ring. Some types of ring settings are very delicate, so if you are a left handed car mechanic, these would not be the rings for you. Also, some types of rings with diamonds in the band can really be rough or stick out and this may cause irritation or annoyance on your fingers if you aren’t used to it. If you don’t talk to your honey and try on these things, how is he supposed to know? Shopping together will help a lot, and unless he proposes in the jewelry store, it won’t ruin the moment.
To ramble more…I think that you should pick out your engagement ring with the type of wedding band you want in mind. Some types of bands are better in certain types of metal (gold/platinum/etc.) because of how they rub up against one another; some types of bands with bling can be up there in terms of price, so you wouldn’t want to blow your entire budget on the engagement ring if you have your heart set on an eternity band; and finally, some engagement rings just don’t work with bands, so that is another thing to think about.
When I tell people that Kris and I went shopping together for an engagement ring, they look at me like I’m crazy or like I’ve ruined romance, but honestly, it was the best decision for the both of us. And, shopping with your honey is far less annoying than strategically leaving highlighted jewelry brochures all over his house.