- Ba-Da-Bing! Kim Kardashian’s 20.5 ct engagement ring, valued at $2mil! Photo Source: Huffingtonpost.com
A friend told me today that on his first date with a girl, she mentioned that she expects at least a 2ct engagement ring. What the heck? First of all, why is she talking about engagement rings on a first date. Second of all, what makes her entitled to dictate the size of her engagement ring? It’s not the first time I’ve heard girls express their expectations regarding engagement ring criteria. And since alot of couples shop for the engagement ring together, the guy must know about their demands. So that makes me wonder two things:
- What is going through the girl’s mind when she has an expectation of a big diamond? Does size really matter? (hahaha!)
- What is going through a guy’s mind when he hears what his girlfriend wants?
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I don’t know the circumstances that allow a girl to dictate diamond sizes, but am I crazy to think that these women are crazy? What is the logic here?
I’ve talked to my boyfriend about what I like when it comes to engagement rings, but only after we started talking about getting engaged. But I went the other direction: I told him that anything bigger than 1.5 carats is too big, and that I would really prefer a one-carat ring. I have small hands, and a big ring would look ridiculous on me, as well as being impractical for my active lifestyle. I may have, in passing talked about wanting a small diamond with previous guys, but usually in context of seeing some gargantuan ring and saying, “Ew.” I feel like a woman who won’t accept something smaller than 2 carats is looking for money and social acceptance/bragging rights over love. And, yes, there’s a difference between thinking something will look good on you and informing a guy (on a FIRST DATE?) that he needs to save for a spectacular ring.
I think you have the chance to tell your boyfriend what engagement ring do you like. Of course, you would not know what are they going to give you when he proposes.
I think declaring to a guy about the size of your engagement ring ON THE FIRST DATE is pretty ridiculous! Maybe she was just half-joking?
I believe that’s the guy’s prerogative on what kind or what size of engagement ring will he give you if he ever proposes. ( But then, I just remembered Carrie Bradshaw literally puking at the sight of Aidan’s engagement ring for her!)
i agree with ann! this is true!
great post! thanks!
I understand if a guy wants to know what his girlfriend’s preferences are….since most seem to be clueless what to get at first. So if he asks, I think it’s relevant for a girl to say what her expectations are. But at the same time, I think expectations need to be reasonable. I’m telling my friend that if a girl brought up diamond size requirements on a first date, maybe she was trying to get rid of him. Perhaps like in “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days.” It would be genius, if it were true.