Buy the Bridesmaid Dress

I really love the Bridesmaid Dresses that I picked out.  They were a flattering, floor-length, teal number that looked lovely on the bridesmaids and excellent in the photographs.  But, I’m not kidding myself.  THEY WILL NEVER WEAR THESE AGAIN.  In fact, I’m pretty sure that no one ever wears bridesmaid dresses again. (I once wore one of my mother’s from the 1970s when I played Aphrodite in a 6th grade project where we learned about mythology, but that is a different story.)

Since I picked the dress, and I picked the color, and everything else about the wedding was me me me, I decided that I was going to budget and pay for the bridesmaid dresses.  This meant having a lot less bridesmaids than I originally envisioned in my dream wedding when I was a little girl, but I think in the end it was worth it.  I felt no guilt, I (think) there was no resentment on the parts of any of the girls involved, and everyone looked how I wanted.

Now, I realize that not everyone is able to buy bridesmaid dresses, but I think you should consider it.  Maybe even take some money out of your dress budget for it.  If this isn’t a possibility, consider asking your bridesmaids to wear a basic black dress or somehow coordinate what they are wearing with clothes that they already own.  It is very considerate, especially during these tough economic times.  Your bridesmaids should be your friends, not just your friends that can afford the dress you pick.

If you end up buying a dress that by some miracle ends up becoming a staple in your bridesmaids’ wardrobes, then that is great (and please, share the link to this dress with everyone on the blog).  My own bridesmaids at first balked at me buying the dresses, so we made a deal that should they ever want to wear their dress again, I would be happy to sell it to them.  No sales as of yet, but I suspect that 20 years from now, their kids might want them for Halloween costumes.

Bridesmaid Dress

The lovely bridesmaid dress that will never be worn again. Source:



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6 Responses to Buy the Bridesmaid Dress

  1. Aliza says:

    My goal is to get dresses that, if my girls shorten them, they will be able to wear them again. I think part of it is not getting a satin dress, as that screams bridesmaid, and going with chiffon or another lighter material instead. However, my boyfriend and I are planning on paying for the bridal party’s hotel rooms, as we don’t want the cost of travel to be prohibitively expensive for those coming in from Phoenix, New York, Florida, and the Netherlands.

  2. Christine says:

    I was told by a grandma that back in the day, the bride always paid for the bridesmaid dress. I haven’t talked to too many grandmas to confirm. My parents believe that the bride should pay for the dresses as well, but I think that’s also motivated by culture. These days, I hear more often that the bride will pay for the dress, or a gift/memento to accessorize like jewelry.

  3. joan says:

    i definitely budgeted in the girls dresses for my wedding, not as their gift but part of the budget, it’s definitely more manageable with less girls (i have 4) but there are alot of options out there that are about $100 or less. i’m an advocate of buying dresses at department stores and other online stores with really good return policies, i ended up getting lucky at Banana Republic, very useful dresses indeed!

  4. Isabelle says:

    I think its more practical to just rent bridesmaid dresses rather than buy it because yeah they will only wear it once. But if you want you can buy the dresses and make money out of it after by letting other people rent it.

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