I really love the Bridesmaid Dresses that I picked out. They were a flattering, floor-length, teal number that looked lovely on the bridesmaids and excellent in the photographs. But, I’m not kidding myself. THEY WILL NEVER WEAR THESE AGAIN. In fact, I’m pretty sure that no one ever wears bridesmaid dresses again. (I once wore one of my mother’s from the 1970s when I played Aphrodite in a 6th grade project where we learned about mythology, but that is a different story.)
Since I picked the dress, and I picked the color, and everything else about the wedding was me me me, I decided that I was going to budget and pay for the bridesmaid dresses. This meant having a lot less bridesmaids than I originally envisioned in my dream wedding when I was a little girl, but I think in the end it was worth it. I felt no guilt, I (think) there was no resentment on the parts of any of the girls involved, and everyone looked how I wanted.
Now, I realize that not everyone is able to buy bridesmaid dresses, but I think you should consider it. Maybe even take some money out of your dress budget for it. If this isn’t a possibility, consider asking your bridesmaids to wear a basic black dress or somehow coordinate what they are wearing with clothes that they already own. It is very considerate, especially during these tough economic times. Your bridesmaids should be your friends, not just your friends that can afford the dress you pick.
If you end up buying a dress that by some miracle ends up becoming a staple in your bridesmaids’ wardrobes, then that is great (and please, share the link to this dress with everyone on the blog). My own bridesmaids at first balked at me buying the dresses, so we made a deal that should they ever want to wear their dress again, I would be happy to sell it to them. No sales as of yet, but I suspect that 20 years from now, their kids might want them for Halloween costumes.