What Does a Groom Gift to His Bride?

What gift does a bride get from her groom?

Just to answer the obvious question up front: no, a groom is not required to get his bride a gift. In most cases, it does not happen. I’ve heard someone say that it’s customary but I think that’s absurd to make it mandatory. You’re already spending so much on the wedding. And many guys would consider the engagement ring to be the gift already. I bring this up because a friend asked me the other day what he could get his fiancee for their wedding. My first thought, “wow, she’s really got him whipped!” hahahaha, just kidding. And with Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I’m sure lots of grooms are thinking the same thing, “what should I get my bride for Valentine’s Day?” These answers can help you, and since guys tend to be last minute with gifts, I know this advice is timely. :)

My answer was to get something that is timeless so she can keep it throughout their marriage. The groom shouldn’t give her something that someone else could give her (spa gift certificate, gift off registry, etc). A groom’s gift should stick out. Obvious answer to me: jewelry, like a necklace, ring, or bracelet. Jewelry can be kept as a sentimental piece and perhaps passed on to the children. My friend said he’s already given her jewelry and wanted more ideas. How can a woman have enough jewelry? Anyways, I humored him and thought of more ideas.

If he wants to do something out of the box, he could invest in US bonds or mutual funds. Although some might feel nervous investing considering the economy, but over time, they will increase in value and they can cash it out on their 50th anniversary together. He said that was too practical. What guy doesn’t like a practical gift?

Another idea is to go the personalization route and create something that cannot be bought at a store. For instance, the groom can create a photo book with the reasons why he loves his fiancee. Or, to incorporate the idea of timeless jewelry, the groom can get a jewelry box (they can get fancy) and engrave it with their wedding date on it. If the groom is creative enough, he can write a poem just for her….maybe a song, too. I just thought of this last paragraph so I’ll have to share with him.

Anyways, I’m out of ideas. What do you think a groom could gift to his bride for their wedding? 

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3 Responses to What Does a Groom Gift to His Bride?

  1. Beth says:

    That title sure caught my eye! Excellent question! I will say though, if my husband-to-be gave me bonds or mutual funds, I would break out in laughter. I would actually be thrilled with such a practical gift, but I bet I am in the minority!

    //Beth @ the Chicago Wedding Band

  2. Aliza says:

    What about gifting her the something blue she needs? If he doesn’t want to do jewelry (sapphire, tanzanite, turquoise), perhaps a hairpin or lace handkerchief or a brooch for her bouquet would work. Also, he could make her an IOU book of things he wants to do for her during their first year of marriage.

  3. Ken says:

    I didn’t want to do jewelry so I got her an Elite Glass Card. It was a card made out of crystal and I wrote exactly how I felt. Nice inscription. She loved it.

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