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March 17th, 2010

I’ve been so remiss in posting, so my apologies!

We are three days away from the BIG DAY. The great thing about being so close is that most costs are finalized, and there are no more big surprises. I know, I’m cheap, but even the most loose-spenders can appreciate that.

That said, I have a question for you ladies. My woman is having a make-up person come on-site. I’ve read in various places that if someone comes on-site, then you don’t have to tip them. The rationale is that these vendors charge an on-site fee, so that pretty much covers that.

What say you? Are we supposed to tip, even if the on-site fee the make-up artist is charging makes up nearly 25% of the day-of cost?

Ordering Our Big Fat Cake

December 13th, 2009

A lot was accomplished yesterday! We met with the bakery that’s going to make our cake, and we also met with a videographer that we think we’ll hire.

First, we had our cake tasting and ordered our wedding cake. If you’re a fan of food shows on TV, you may have heard about “Cake Boss” on TLC. And if you have, you’d appreciate this even more because, guess what – Buddy’s making our cake! Well, maybe not Buddy specifically, but his bakery is.

with buddy and mario

Buddy’s the one in the middle (man, it feels good to be taller than a TV celebrity, even if it’s just a tad), and the guy on the right is Mario, his right hand man. These guys are pretty loud on their show, but during the meeting when we discussed our cake, they were so professional and low-key. Definitely gives credence to the thinking that reality TV isn’t reality at all.

Anyway, the process went like this. We went to the bakery at 11:30 for our appointment. When we got there, we saw a huge line outside. Ever since the launch of “Cake Boss,” celebrity gawkers flock to the Hoboken shop on weekends (it’s much emptier on the weekdays I’ve been there), and it was no different on the day we went.

line outside

After we got past the bouncer (no joke), we had to fight our way through a mass of people to get to the “waiting area” for people who had consultation appointments. Turns out there was a group ahead of us, so we had to wait.

inside

While we were waiting, a bunch of kids tried getting autographs from some of the chefs and staff there. Here’s a pic of Joe and Grace, taken poorly with an iPhone.

grace and joe

We flipped through a couple of binders with wedding cakes, and after a bit longer, we finally got called to go up. So we went, up the “famous” stairwell where they dropped some big (fat?) cake, and through a hallway into an office where Buddy was waiting for us.

He was really gracious, and was pretty sincere in apologizing for making us wait. We shook hands, and he gave us another binder with cake options that were included in our hotel package. As we started looking through the binder, he walked up to the window of his office, which looked down to the people lined up outside. When the crowd saw him, they screamed. He thanked them for coming out, and then, because someone in the crowd asked him to, he said, “Fondant.” That was pretty cute.

He then stepped out, and his assistant came in with some cake samples. There were maybe 8 or 9 different slices of cake for us to taste. Surprisingly, given that the missus and her sister were there, we didn’t finish everything (because, you know, they enjoy eating ;) ). While there were quite a few really good tasting options, it wasn’t too difficult for us to choose what we wanted for our cake.

As for the design of the cake, Mario helped walk us through that. We found a design in the binder that fit the “feel” we were going for, and then made some customizations. Changing things up cost us a few more dollars, but in the end, it’s going to be fine since the cake design is exactly what we want, and shoot, it’s pretty cool that a bakery that’s on TV is making the cake.

Oh, one other thing — we got to go into the kitchen as well. Mario wanted to show us an example of the design/style we were discussing. It was pretty cool to go in, since it looked exactly as it does on the show. Plus, we also saw this HUGE cake that was going to a wedding that day. It was pretty elaborate, and sized to feed 300 people.

So, we’re pretty excited about our cake. We hope our guests enjoy it too. :)

(Notes about the videographer to come separately.)

Trip Planning

December 10th, 2009

A cautionary tale for you ladies. When the missus and I booked our honeymoon, we checked the expiration dates of our passports, and thought we were good to go.

However, in reading the fine print in the various Tahiti travel guides, we noticed that French Polynesia requires passports to have expiration dates no less than 6 months after your trip.

Well, we fly out of Tahiti on 4/2. And guess when my passport expires? Yup, 10/2. Theoretically, I would be safe, but why risk it. Thus, we decided to go ahead and renew (note I say “we,” since it was the missus who told me to).

passport

Well (again), it’s been a heckuva long time since I did anything passport-related, and it was news to me that renewing a passport cost $75, plus it cost me $8 to take two passport photos. Good grief!

I know what you’re thinking — this handsome young man sure is a cheapskate, given that he’s going to Tokyo and Bora Bora for his honeymoon. To that, I say you’re right. I’m handsome, and young, and yes, I’m cheap. Renewing my passport shouldn’t cost $83! Plus the postage. Never forget the postage.

Here’s to hoping that this application and my current passport doesn’t get lost in the mail.

What a Journey!

November 24th, 2009

Our honeymoon is booked!

After a long (seemingly) process, we’re very happy to say that we’ve made our dream trip a reality (at least in terms of paper tickets). It was a long process because it took a lot of maneuvering to make the financials work.We used a lot of Starwood points and airline miles, as well as negotiating with the travel agent, and we were all ready to book the trip last week. However, after starting the booking process, I realized that if I used my miles in a slightly different way, we could save more than $1k off the total cost. So, I had to wait a few extra days for points to transfer, miles to post, etc., but today, I’m freaking ecstatic to say we’re 99% booked.

We’re going to Tokyo and then Bora Bora. That’s right – Tokyo and Bora Bora.

Our first destination is Tokyo. We leave the day after our wedding, and fly direct from Newark to Narita.

tokyo

We’ve both been to Tokyo once before, separately, (me more so than she), but we really love the city, and want to go back. We’ll spend five nights in Tokyo, and then on March 27th, we leave for Papeete in Tahiti. Right after we land, we jump on another plane to go to Bora Bora. We’ll spend five nights there. We plan on chilling out most of the time there, but we already have one excursion planned – sharkfeeding and snorkeling. Neither of us swim, so please pray that neither of us drown. ;)

bora bora

After Bora Bora, we’re in Tahiti for one night, and then it’s back to Tokyo for one more night.From Tokyo, we fly back to Newark, again non-stop. We’ll be tired, to be sure, but man, we’re so psyched!

P.S. We’re 99% booked because we still haven’t figured out where we’re going to stay in our final night in Tokyo. We’re thinking of spending a bit of money to stay a nicer-than-what-we’d-normally-pay-for-type place, it being our last night and all. Any suggestions?

Wedded Bli$$

November 17th, 2009

Just read an article in the NYT about a Korean wedding custom. Apparently,

“Before entering the wedding hall, guests line up in front of the cashier’s table to hand over an envelope stuffed with cash. The cashier opens the envelope and registers the guest’s name, and the amount given, in a velvet-covered ledger — often while the guest is still standing there.”

Source: New York Times

Source: New York Times

This reminded me of a Fukianese tradition I recently learned about. At the reception, someone stands up on stage, and announces each guest and the amount of his/her monetary gift. Talk about Krazy.

At my wedding, we will simply use a thermal scanner. If we register too much body heat, well, then, that means you’re not sufficiently padded with the cold hard cash that should be going in my gift box. Don’t worry though – instead of a photo booth, we’ll have a rented ATM on-site. ;)

(Just kidding!)

By the way, my favorite quote from the article above:

“Sometimes you even get invitations from people you don’t know very well,” Mr. Kim said. “They arrive like tax bills or I.O.U.’s.”

Bachelor Party Crashers

September 30th, 2009

Geez.

So Bachelor Party #1 has been scheduled. I’m going to Vegas with my buddies in January, and we’re going to check out the cultural icons and natural habitats of that quiet town. I’m really excited – I will definitely bring a journal to log all of our activities.

Kidding aside, one of my buddies just asked me if it’d be okay for him to invite someone to the trip. I don’t really know the guy he wanted to invite, but my first instinct was, “Hey, it’s Vegas, who am I to say no.” However, after getting some advice from others, I decided, hell no, it’s my bachelor party, and I want to “lose myself in unspeakable acts with my closest friends” and not make new acquaintances.

Las Vegas

What would you ladies have done? Let’s say an invitee to your bridal shower asks to bring someone, would you be okay with that? Or am I way off base?

Honeymoon Costs Over the Moon?

September 22nd, 2009

What’s a good amount/percentage to budget for the honeymoon? The missus-to-be and I have to date focused mostly on the wedding itself, and while we had some ideas on where we wanted to have rough, romantic, just-tied-the-knot sex, we didn’t really look into it. We’ve started to, however, and it’s a bit crazy, money-wise.

We’re paying for our wedding pretty much ourselves, and since we aren’t Google stockholders from early IPO days, or Citigroup bonus recipients, we aren’t exactly rolling in dough. However, we want to have a really nice honeymoon and the places we’re thinking about (Tahiti, Fiji, Maldives, Tokyo, etc.) are pretty expensive.

So last week, we sat down and went through our budgets again. We tried to calculate what we could *potentially* afford, how much in “emergency” money we wanted to not touch at all, and how much each idea would generally cost. Thankfully (because we are truly blessed), most of the ideas are within reach, partly thanks to the time of year we’d be traveling. Still, the whole budgeting process made me wonder how much people typically spend on their own honeymoons.

honeymoon

For those ladies in the audience that got a ring put on y’all, where did you go on your honeymoon and did you have a set budget when you planned it? Any regrets? Anything you would’ve done differently? Any advice you want to share with me?

For those ladies that don’t have a ring on the finger yet — really? You’re reading this blog already? Geez, you’re anxious. ;)

Bearing Sole(ly)?

September 16th, 2009

The missus-to-be and I have old cousins. Well, mine are more so than hers, but essentially, we do not have access to cute little boys and girls to be our flower girls and ringbearers. We do have close friends who have an ultra-cute little boy who would be 2 years old around the time of our wedding. We’ve considered asking them if he could be a ringbearer, but hesitate to do so for these reasons:

  • Would it be weird for us to have a ringbearer but no flower girl? My idea of having the missus-to-be’s grandmother be the flower girl got shot down. (I was just joking!)
  • How old is old enough for this kind of gig? Being two years old is still pretty young, right? I don’t want this runt to steal my thunder with his inability to walk down an aisle. After all, with my tux on, I should and would be the cutest guy in the whole room. (Again, I kid.)

Anyway, what do you ladies think (and when I say “ladies,” I mean everyone plus Scott)? Is having just a little boy okay, or would it be weird to have a boy and not a little girl?

Source: The Style Laboratory

Source: The Style Laboratory

Allergic to Marriage?

September 1st, 2009

My fiance came back from Taiwan recently, with our wedding bands in tow. I tried on the one for me, and did some “stress tests” to see if the ring was a good fit (basically shaking my hand to see if my ring would fall off).

A couple of days later, we went to Mel’s wedding, and I noticed that my left ring finger was all swollen. The rest of the night saw me continuously going up to my fiance and asking/whining, “See! I’m allergic to wedding rings! I’m too handsome to be tied down.”

Not really my finger. My hand is much more effeminate.

Not really my finger. My hand is much more effeminate.

Luckily for me, my fiance is pretty used to my awesome funnyness, so she humored me. I also wondered if I was maybe allergic to platinum, which, based on comments in my last post, is known to happen. My fiance quickly shot that down, since, as she pointed out, I hold her left hand a lot, her engagement ring is platinum and my right hand is fine.

The next day, the mystery was solved. It turned out I had a bug bite on that finger.

Clearly, the mosquito was jealous.

Male Banding

August 18th, 2009

This topic has been covered somewhat before in Mel’s post about wedding rings, but I’m here to give you the guy’s perspective, and my own experience.

The missus-to-be is in Taiwan for vacation, and part of her trip includes shopping for our wedding bands.  The characteristics of the ring I want for myself include: not overly designed, not too fancy looking/shiny, not too bulky or heavy, and not too expensive (I’m cheap).

Here are the options I’m considering now. Which one would you get for your guy, if any?

Platinum

Platinum

Platinum also

Platinum also

Titanium

Titanium