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As my weekend travel plans get canceled due to the impending blizzard, it has me wondering: what happens to a wedding when it *really* snows?

Our last major snow storm also was on a weekend (December 19, 2009), so inevitably there were issues with people’s wedding plans that weekend too. Here’s some tips on dealing with a snowed out wedding:

If the weather puts a damper on your wedding plans, put on a positive face – it’s still your big day! Enjoy it! And maybe even go make a bride and groom snowman :-) .

I can’t believe that this day only a year ago I was in a big white dress and walking down the aisle! It’s so amazing how time really flies – I still remember that day so well!

This year has been fabulous – we’ve loved being married!  We didn’t live together before our wedding day, so being married has made our relationship stronger (since we’re around each other all the time and don’t need to say “goodbye” at the end of the night), and it’s also been great getting to carpool all the time :-) .

For our first anniversary, I decided that we should go the traditional route and give each other gifts made from paper.  We capped the limit at $5 initially, but then hubby decided that he couldn’t find anything for $5, so the limit was upped to $10.  I had great ideas – I thought about getting a wedding photo blown up, or writing a nice letter, or making a nice card and writing in it.  But then I got lazy and was feeling un-crafty (though I did suggest to my husband that he show his love for me by making 1,000 paper cranes… he didn’t buy it though :-P ).

Other “paper” anniversary gifts ideas included magazine subscriptions (no, my husband did not need another subscription to Car and Driver), movie/theater tickets (limited options with $10), a $10 bill (kind of lame), a $10 gift card (also somewhat lame, and rarely made from paper these days), or a book (such as a marriage book we could read together, since my husband doesn’t read).

So, what creative, unique, romantic anniversary gift have I got for my husband?

The Dilbert 2010 desk calendar!  What can I say – my man is an engineer :-) .

Most of our readers are probably *not* married yet, but for those that are, what are (or did) you do for your first anniversary?

Wedded Bli$$

November 17th, 2009

Just read an article in the NYT about a Korean wedding custom. Apparently,

“Before entering the wedding hall, guests line up in front of the cashier’s table to hand over an envelope stuffed with cash. The cashier opens the envelope and registers the guest’s name, and the amount given, in a velvet-covered ledger — often while the guest is still standing there.”

Source: New York Times

Source: New York Times

This reminded me of a Fukianese tradition I recently learned about. At the reception, someone stands up on stage, and announces each guest and the amount of his/her monetary gift. Talk about Krazy.

At my wedding, we will simply use a thermal scanner. If we register too much body heat, well, then, that means you’re not sufficiently padded with the cold hard cash that should be going in my gift box. Don’t worry though – instead of a photo booth, we’ll have a rented ATM on-site. ;)

(Just kidding!)

By the way, my favorite quote from the article above:

“Sometimes you even get invitations from people you don’t know very well,” Mr. Kim said. “They arrive like tax bills or I.O.U.’s.”

Did you have fun at your wedding and feel sad that the fun stops after the wedding is over? Some brides find it hard to turn off the excitement after the big day is over. If you keep looking at wedding dresses after you’ve already picked one, or you’ve already married, then you are as GUILTY as me. :O)

Source: Pink Orchid Weddings

Source: Pink Orchid Weddings

Well, the fun doesn’t have to be over because gals like me, continue the fun by helping other brides. For myself, I feel that if I can help a friend while having fun myself, why not help out? And when other friends saw how much I enjoyed planning my own wedding, they asked me to help with theirs. Some brides see it as a wedding gift since the cost of a day of coordinator is usually several hundred dollars. I only help as much as the bride feels comfortable (some brides need more help than others) when planning the wedding, and for others, I will only coordinate the day of the wedding.

If the opportunities don’t jump into your lap, you could ask friends if they would like some help and keep doing that until you find your niche in wedding planning/coordinating. Also, you could find a friend that is coordinating a wedding and ask if she would like a second hand. Almost always, I’m working with one other person when coordinating a wedding. Because you have first-hand experience with being a bride and with a couple of opportunities helping someone else coordinate, you could eventually coordinate a wedding on your own.

And if you want this hobby to become a career and you’re a George Mason University student, be sure to check out their course in wedding planning! I saw it mentioned in an entrepreneurship magazine and at the time of publication, it was the only course in the nation at an accredited university.

The Little Things

November 11th, 2009

Paying attention to the small details can add so much to your wedding day. As I attend more and more weddings, I find myself noticing all those personalized additions the bride and groom have to make their wedding day extra special. Here are just a few of my favorite “little things”:

Kim had personalized coasters at her wedding for all of her guests to use.

My friend Kim had personalized coasters for all of the guests at her wedding.

Water bottles

Colleen had mini water bottles for her guests, which was perfect for the warm summer afternoon.

Wine Bottles

Linh had wine bottles as favors with personlized thank-you tags on each of them.

table number

Angela hand-made these table numbers and added the adorable bows.

 

Are you planning to include  ”little things”  in your wedding?

The recent weddings that we’ve been invited to have been for friends who got engaged and planned their wedding in less than 6 months, several under 4 months. I’m not sure what is causing people to speed up their time lines but at least this year, our friends decided to have short engagements. Nope, no babies in sight either. I thought that, too but no one has been popping out a baby or showing a baby bulge. I’m not sure what the rationale is, and “the economy” has become the new “El Niño” so maybe I can blame it on the economy. :P

Source: US Magazine

OK, I wasn't invited to the Kardashian-Odom wedding, but you get what I mean. Source: US Magazine

Anyone have any thoughts? Are you finding the same trend with the weddings that you’re invited to?

Bridal Shower Gifts

November 1st, 2009

Going to a bridal shower and clueless about what to give? And you’re clueless because you don’t want to give the bride something generic, i.e. cookware, dishware, home decor, or lingerie. Of course all girls love a few additions to her lingerie collection. {I sure did!} But its not always easy to buy underwear for other people.

So first, you want to think about who the bride. Is she a technology lover? This is a great gift idea: flip camera

flip camera

flip camera

Is she a foodie? Do some research on restaurants in her or her fiance’s neighborhood and get a gift certificate to a place where they can share a nice meal. Or subscribe her to a monthly wine club membership.

from www.photographybydiana.com

from www.photographybydiana.com

Do you know where the couple is going for their honeymoon? Some nice travel guidebooks would be a thoughtful gift.  Place the books in a beach bag with a matching beach towel for a complete package {if the destination is a tropical one}.

Lonely Planet Guidebooks

Lonely Planet Guidebooks

Sometimes, brides just want to be pampered.  A gift certificate to a spa is a great way to send the bride off to relaxation.  Or give her some relaxation material like candles and soaps.  Some of my favorite gifts from my shower were from SabonFresh and L’Occitane are great shops to find similar gifts too.

The mega basket from Sabon

The mega basket from Sabon

Do you now if the bride is changing her last name?  She can show off her new initials with a monogrammed tote bag.  In the tote, you can stash other some little gifts.  My MOH gave me a monogrammed LLBean tote stuffed with the cutest t-shirt from Magnolia Bakery and a pair of pajama shorts.

All sorts of totes from LL Bean

All sorts of totes from LL Bean

So those are a few gifts I got and loved from my bridal shower.

What are some of your favorite gifts you got at your bridal shower? Or seen given to a bride?

Neglected Wedding Dresses

October 2nd, 2009

Few people think of what they want to do with their dress until long after the wedding is over. Sometimes people will remember to clean it but if you wait too long, your beautiful dress will get yellow and dingy from perspiration stains, deodorant residue, and odors. Salts from the body can possibly change the color in the underarm area. And if you had an outdoor wedding or rain on your day, the bottom of your dress most likely picked up dirt from sweeping across the floor. Even if you don’t see any stains immediately after the wedding, over time sugar and oil from food and rink will oxidize or caramelize on your dress.

If you’ve ever kept a white shirt or white dress long enough in your closet, you know what I’m talking about. White doesn’t like to stay white. However, most gowns today will not yellow with age like our mothers’ gown because of the materials used today, with the exception of silk fabric which is a natural fiber. So if you think you have perspiration, food, dirt, etc. on your dress, it will definitely be a good idea to clean it. If you plan on keeping the dress for a long time, passing it on to someone else, or selling it sometime in the future, you may want to think about preserving (aka “boxing”) your wedding dress.

gown_preservation

The box and materials is acid-free. Keeping it in a plastic sleeve in the box will keep it from getting wet in emergency situations. Source: Total Cleaners

I got my dress boxed at Michael’s III Cleaners at 719 N Saint Asaph St in Alexandria, VA. It was very no fuss and convenient. They have 2 other locations in Maryland, in Oxon Hill and Fort Washington. Total Cleaners is another dry cleaner that also specializes in wedding dress preservation for the DC area, and they deliver! They can pick up from your house or work, and deliver back to you when they’re done. I use their dry cleaning service regularly and it’s always great service so I referred them to friends for preservation who loved the convenience and quality of service.

Prices at any dry cleaners will depend on how intricate the dress is but you can expect to spend starting at $150-$200. Upcharges are determined by the length of the train, amount of beading, and other intricate designs. Because I wasn’t sure whether or not I wanted to sell or to keep the dress, I figured preserving the dress would be smart to do to keep the dress’s color and structure intact. By the way, I still haven’t decided. :O)

Do you have  a vendor you trust for wedding dress preservation in your location? Share with us!

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