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With two close friends in Australia, multiple good friends in America, and three sisters, I had a lot of options for bridesmaids. Part of me wanted to have one sister and a bunch of friends, part of me wanted all my sisters and one or two friends, and another part of me wanted to have a simple and small bridal party and just stick with my sisters, even though they are scattered across the globe.

My 3 sisters... and some type of monkey.

My 3 sisters... and some type of monkey.

I chose to have just my three sisters as my bridesmaids. I incorporated my other close friends into other roles, such as gift attendants, readers, and musicians. Also, with my bridesmaids scattered around the world, a lot of my American friends became my bridesmaid-dress-less bridesmaids! (all the crafting became a great excuse for hanging out with my girlfriends *and* we got to get to know each other better too).

While I was engaged, one of my sisters was living close by… in London! She decided to come over for a week shortly after we got engaged, and help me look for bridesmaids dresses. The benefit in having all my sisters as my bridesmaids was that we all look relatively the same, so by seeing one dress on one sister, I got a fairly good idea of what it would look like on the rest of them.

Prior to her arrival, I had her looking online at bridesmaids dresses and sending me the links of the dresses that she liked. My criteria was that it had to be a limey bright green sort of color (much to another of my sister’s horror), tea length, fun, and it had to be something that they might wear again (heh, how many of us say that? :P ).

A friend of mine had a great tip for me – she told me to go to a bridal store and find a dress that I liked, then go to netbride.com and order it from them. So, that’s exactly what I did.

First we went to Demetrios at Macy’s. The staff was helpful and showed us a number of different options. They also offered 15% off because we would be getting 3 dresses (never hurts to ask for a discount!).

Dress #1:

I really liked this dress (After Six). I loved how it pulled to the side, was tea length, and looked like something you could easily wear again. I wasn’t convinced about the color though – it just wasn’t limey enough. (On the other hand, I was tempted to buy the dark blue version for myself!)

Next we went to a small boutique near my house and found:

Dress #2:

My sister absolutely loved this dress by Jasmine – it was absolutely perfect in every way except for the color. Rather than being the green that you see above, the green was actually more of a dark khaki color (when we looked at the 1″ square sample).

Dress #3:

This dress by Jordan was the closest we could find to the style of Dress #2 and was exactly the color I was looking for. The only problem was that it was only available in full length.

A week later, my sister was back in London and discovered that Dress #3 was now available in Tea Length! Yay! I had been quoted $179 for Dress #3 when I went into the bridal store, so I was really excited to get quoted $105 including shipping, handling & tax from Netbride.com.

Because one of my sisters got married in Australia before my wedding, I took the dresses with me so that my sisters could get them altered.

Skipping the middle man on your dresses *can* save you money, but sometimes there is also peace of mind by shopping at a “bricks and mortar” store. There are also a number of other online bridal boutiques out there, but Netbride is the only one I’ve used (or had friends use).  I should also mention that you don’t have to stick with the traditional bridesmaid dress look – there are great finds to be had at your favorite shopping spots (even at every girl’s dream store – Target!).

If you’ve had a good experience with an online bridal boutique, I’d love to hear about it!

“And you’ll definitely be able to wear it again, isn’t it great?!”

This is one of the most common phrases every bridesmaid hears regarding the dresses selected for the bridal party.  Is it true?  Well, it’s not often true, but it’s been known to happen.  In my six (to date) turns as a bridesmaid, I’ve worn one dress again.  It was when I was a bridesmaid in another wedding, but it still counts!

Some words of wisdom and things to keep in mind when choosing your bridesmaid dresses:

  • Choose wisely – you could be in one of their weddings and in the bridesmaid hot seat next
  • Stay away from fabrics that are very shiny and very clingy – dresses like that are really only meant for .01% of the population
Step away from the gold lamé and no one gets hurt

Step away from the gold lamé and no one gets hurt

  • Decide how important it is that your bridesmaids all wear the exact same dress – consider letting your ladies choose their neckline style, shades of the same color, etc.
Same color family, similar lengths, different dresses. Courtesy InStyle.com

Same color family, similar lengths, different dresses. Courtesy InStyle.com

Same color dresses, different necklines. Courtesy InStyle.com

Same color dresses, different necklines. Courtesy InStyle.com

  • Take all or some of your bridesmaid to the store so they can model the options for you – more often than not, brides end up going with a different style after seeing their initial choices on their friends
  • Is a dress the best choice?  Consider two-piece mix ‘n match combinations that many stores are now offering.  David’s Bridal has a great tool where you can match up different separates with accessories to see which look you like best.
  • Try to choose a store that has a wide selection – David’s Bridal is one great option.  They have a huge selection of bridesmaid dresses in a wide range of sizes and colors.  Other popular chain stores include Alfred Angelo and J. Crew (they always have a decent selection of dresses on sale). Another up and coming brand I’ve heard a lot about is Melissa Sweet – her dresses are lovely, but they’re not the most affordable option
  • Unless you’re planning to purchase the gowns for your bridesmaids, make sure to pick a dress that everyone can afford
  • Like when you purchase a wedding dress, leave enough time to place the order and make any alterations if necessary

I’ve worn four black dresses, one baby blue and one deep lilac dress.  The blue one was donated to a charity, two of the black ones are collecting dust in my closet, I wore one of the black ones twice (in my friend’s wedding and then in my sister’s wedding) and the purple one needs to be dry-cleaned before it joins the other black dresses in my closet.

Questions for both the bridesmaids and brides out there – how did you choose dresses?  Did you ever wear them again?  What did you do with them afterwards?